Whether it is your spouse or your children, spending time with the same people, day in and out, is challenging. Let’s face it, we’re all difficult to live with. My family is not perfect. We struggle with the same things everyone does… attitudes, scheduling, being autonomous but still respecting those around us.
Sometimes I feel hesitant to share the things I have learned about parenting and family life because…well, we’re not perfect. Who am I to teach anyone about anything?
But when I look at moms and wives stressed out from daily stuff.. things that don’t really matter in the long run…. I realize that it takes perspective to know what matters and what will work itself out. And perspective comes with age and experience. When I was that young mom, I so badly wished someone with more experience would share with me.
I’ve been a parent for 20 years now. And a wife for 21. If I had to sum it up in an overall philosophy of family life, it would probably be that in just about everything, the relationship matters more than the ideal.
“The relationship matters more than the ideal.”
That’s how you know if it’s worth fighting for. If the help you’re giving is costing you a healthy relationship, whether it’s your own health or your relationship with your spouse or child, it’s probably something to let go.
But that’s a big picture idea that needs breaking down to understand. Throughout these parenting pages, I’ll be sharing stories that illustrate the big ideas. And in most cases you’ll get a glimpse into how things worked out in the long run. Hind site really is 20/20.